I'm going to have take his F'ing keys.

"Deal Killer - Powered by Focus" (dealkiller-ii)
03/18/2020 at 23:18 • Filed to: None

My 85 year old father is still going out to shop for non-essential items, after I told him face to face to keep his ass at home. My mom had cancer a few years back, and is not as ambulatory as he is, as her knees are at the end of their useful life. Damn it man, don’t make me go over and disable your cars just to keep you safe. This virus is nothing to fuck around with. Please, I really don’t want to have to bury my parents earlier than I have to. I’m 51 years old, but really like having my mom and dad around. Who else am I going to have to borrow tools from and sew buttons on my coats?

DISCUSSION (24)

Chan - Mid-engine with cabin fever > Deal Killer - Powered by Focus
03/18/2020 at 23:28

At their age, it may come down to you forcibly removing their means of transportation. Good luck and stay safe.

gmporschenut also a fan of hondas > Deal Killer - Powered by Focus
03/18/2020 at 23:30

My parents are away on vacation and I already expect to loose my shit at stupid shit they’ll do when they get back.

Just Jeepin' > Deal Killer - Powered by Focus
03/18/2020 at 23:32

Perhaps you could ask the family genealogist how many relatives he lost during the Spanish Flu.

Nom De Plume > Deal Killer - Powered by Focus
03/18/2020 at 23:41

Disable the car, then take his keys away and make clear he has lost the privilege until further notice.

Brickman > Deal Killer - Powered by Focus
03/18/2020 at 23:47

Im making my dad stay home. He’s fine with that ;)

phenotyp > Deal Killer - Powered by Focus
03/18/2020 at 23:51

Man, my mom’s in her late 60s and just flew across the continent to get home. I hope she stays OK. My wife and daughter have been away the last week and a half, since it’s our daughter’s spring break, and school was cancelled on Monday.

It’s weird, weird times. Go take your dad’s keys. Pull a fuse. Whatever it takes.

wafflesnfalafel > Deal Killer - Powered by Focus
03/19/2020 at 00:06

I had what I thought was a positive, useful conversation with my folks a bit over a week ago about what our household was doing to mitigate and keep us safe and tried to make sure they were taking similar precautions. I find out later that the very next day they went out and walked around Costco, Walmart and a local mall then stopped at a buffet style restaurant for a late lunch (before restaurants got closed) “just to get out of the house.” Yesterday I got an email from my mother complaining that her local grocer was out of toilet paper on her shopping day . These are smart, experienced people - but they are going to need a lot of help to get through this...

Deal Killer - Powered by Focus > Just Jeepin'
03/19/2020 at 00:09

He is the family genealogist.

Kinja'd!!!

Deal Killer - Powered by Focus > Chan - Mid-engine with cabin fever
03/19/2020 at 00:12

I’ll take the wheels off his damn truck. Put it up on jack stands if it comes to it.

Full of the sound of the Gran Fury, signifying nothing. > gmporschenut also a fan of hondas
03/19/2020 at 00:15

Same here :/ They’re currently on a boat off of Palau, but their return flight goes through Taipei. I’m wondering if they’re going to be stuck in the middle of the pacific until this whole mess blows over.

Deal Killer - Powered by Focus > wafflesnfalafel
03/19/2020 at 00:16

I know that feel bro. I know that feel. This is an awful time we’re living through. I really don’t think some people realize how bad it may get in the next few months. I’m hoping for the best, but planning on the worst. Currently living the Boy Scout motto to the fullest, Be Prepared.

Chariotoflove > Deal Killer - Powered by Focus
03/19/2020 at 00:30

I’m in the same age range as you, and my dad is close to your dad’s. Dad is also a physician who understands what’s at stake. I have no problem telling him what I think, but he will make his own decisions, and I don’t try to interrogate or argue with him. I know that may not be the supportive comment you wanted to hear, but I wanted to give you my perspective. I feel like my ultimate evolution as a son and an adult is to get to this point where Dad and I respect each other and each other’s judgement.

All that said, I pray he will listen to your concerns and take them to heart, if only because that is another aspect of respecting you as his adult son.

Deal Killer - Powered by Focus > Chariotoflove
03/19/2020 at 00:44

If not for his safety and health, than at least my mother’s. Damn, I hate this shit. My siblings are all miles away, and it falls to me to be the heavy in this situation. Fuck, I hate it. Really, I fucking hate it. I’ve got kids to care for, I don’t need this shit. But, it’s what I have to do. Others here and elsewhere have faced harder challenges than making sure there dad isn’t going to the damn store. I guess its’ a first world problem.

CompactLuxuryFan > Full of the sound of the Gran Fury, signifying nothing.
03/19/2020 at 00:46

Taipei would be a great place to be through this. I wish my parents were there.

Chariotoflove > Deal Killer - Powered by Focus
03/19/2020 at 01:19

Loving family isn’t first world. It’s the right way to be. If you’re not his care giver, the best you can do is remind him of the cost if he gambles wrong. People who die from this die alone. In isolation. Say your piece. Then he will make his decision. In recent years my dad has really been listening to me and taking my opinions seriously. Not when I try to tell him what to do though. We share a strong contrary streak that way. I hope yours will listen to you. Good luck.

RPM esq. > Deal Killer - Powered by Focus
03/19/2020 at 01:26

Thought better of a downer post in downer times. Good luck man, that’s tough and even though you’re right on the facts, old people gonna old people.

Svend > Deal Killer - Powered by Focus
03/19/2020 at 01:41

Paren ts are always, ‘do as I say, not as I do’. Even when your trying your damnedest to protect them, they pull the, ‘I’m your father, etc...’.

Just stress to him that he’s not just putting his own life at risk, but his wife’s and nobody has the right to put another persons life at risk without their say so and to do otherwise is selfish.

But at the end of the day, all you can do is give them the facts, if he pushes it, call his bluff and call your mother in and say, ‘right, if your prepared to put mum at risk, I’m not, she’s coming with me, as I’m not prepared to see her life being put at risk, the cancer has already had an effect on her body, she really doesn’t need this’.

DipodomysDeserti > Chariotoflove
03/19/2020 at 01:44

“ I don’t try to interrogate or argue with him.”

How I know Chariotoflove isn’t Italian.

- an Italian.

TheRealBicycleBuck > wafflesnfalafel
03/19/2020 at 07:11

My wife had a similar conversation with her aunt and uncle when all this started . Her uncle is in his mid-80s and has dementia, so he forgets things and gets stubborn about it. They ended up following their normal routine anyway for the next few days - breakfast at a restaurant, a bit of shopping/running around, then settling in at home for the afternoon and evening . Yesterday, they both started running a fever.

vondon302 > Deal Killer - Powered by Focus
03/19/2020 at 07:39

Ugh I feel for ya my elderly in laws stopped by my house after shopping. I got pissed and they thought it was ridiculous that we should go shopping for them. I stopped just short of making a scene but damn people.

Long_Voyager94 > Deal Killer - Powered by Focus
03/19/2020 at 07:43

At 85 years old he’s going to do what he wants.

My grandparents aren’t remotely worried despite what’s going on. They’ve lived through much worse already, if this is what gets them so be it.

It’s their decision, you’ve voiced your concern, now leave it there.

I know it’s probably not the support you’re looking for, but it’s likely what you need to hear.

facw > Deal Killer - Powered by Focus
03/19/2020 at 08:02

My parents are around 70, and while they are back now, they’ve been blissfully ignoring this whole thing in the UK for the past couple weeks. Even after the British government finally realized that maybe they should do something, they still went to a concert and a social lunch on Monday. They seem to have adjusted their view by the time they came back Tuesday though.

Chariotoflove > DipodomysDeserti
03/19/2020 at 10:31

I’m half Italian. He’s the other half. Vermont farmer.

Rusty Vandura - www.tinyurl.com/keepoppo > Deal Killer - Powered by Focus
03/24/2020 at 12:13

I went digging for an older post so I could send you a note, but your post here is poignant.

Your post about the Arizona couple who tried that chemical after hearing the president tout it was interesting. The role of the POTUS is not to hurry people along the path to fulfilling Darwin’s Principle. What I wanted to say there, and didn’t, because I didn’t want to start a s**t throwing contest, was that those two probably died with their MAGA hats on. I think it was a legitimate story and a legitimate concern. The response from Oppo’s little pack of Trump followers was sadly predictable. Trump Derangement Syndrome strikes people on both sides of the ideological divide.